Ina recent conversation with a friend (LTO DO YOU SEE YOUR NAME HERE?!?!?!? LOL) we got on the subject of relationships and the such. I told her that I think when comes to LTR's and Marriage that ultimately the man doesnt choose the woman. The woman chooses the man. And while LTO stopped short of calling mecrazy, if I recall correctly she didnt completely agree with me, So lemme expound a bit on why I think that the woman chooses the man and not the other way around. If men are supposedly the pursuers I think it's safe to assume that most women are accustomed to being pursued, right? It's up to her to decide which of her pursuers she thinks makes the best mate for her, no? Save for the case of say....some sorta known wealthy or famous guy who must decide if all the women are paying him attention strictly for his dough, I think it's almost always the woman that chooses the man. I do admit that I drift back and forth with "old fashioned" and "traditional" values and so on. And said "old fashion"/"traditional" values would say that the man chooses his wife but I dont buy it. It ...

I met a lovely lady Sitting right there beside me On a spring day Maturity had her mercy Cause she seem so close to perfect In just every way We parted ways but By May I was in her arms Again I knew that she was Different by the proof that I was feeling Oh how love Can sneak up on you And tell you just what to do It has no time, no place It's just chooses you I meet her in March We made love by May By June we were here to stay I thank you August for your grace It's just too bad October didn't Do the same. And I sure wish we made it to Valentine's day Vacation is now over And fall just walked up And said good morning How can I fix you coffee If you live so damn far away from me We parted ways by November But I hope by December You would come to your senses You think of me and you remember Oh how love Can sneak up on you And tell you jus what to do It has no time, no place Its just chooses you I met her in march We made love by May By June we were here to stay I thank you August for your grace It's just too bad October didn't Do the same. And I sure wish we made it to Valentine's day See baby Baby you gotta know That ...

A friend taking a course on human sexuality recently had me take a brief survey concerning perceived notions of "promiscuity" and it got me to thinking. I answered the questions as honestly as possible and while I'm pretty sure I'm no saint,I know for damn sure I'mfar from being a304 . (That's old pager code for those not in the know.) So then that whole episode got me to thinkingaboutmy "number". And you know which "number" I speak of. Yes THAT number! Remember Chris Rock's bit about this? When the guy asks the girl her number and she tells him that it's two."Two?!!?!? Two!?!?!?!? I guess that's just how you raised!" he responds. Chris' point was that as far as men are concerned that ANY number a woman gives is gonna seem high b/c of the double standard that women are unfortunately burdened with. I think he exaggerated the point a bit for the sake of comedy but there was definitely truth there. As far as my personal number, Ithink it's safe to say that I'm never gonnado Wilt numbers. Hell, I hope to never even reach triplefigures let alone 5 figures. How the hell did dude even find time to play ball ...

You know how in the movie 'Love Jones' when Nina and Darius hit it off, then Nina's ex-fianceé, Marvin tries to come back in the picture? Marvin invites Nina to NY to see if there is truly anything left, and b/c she wanted to inquire about some job possibilities out there she contemplates going. Nina is concerned how this will go over with Darius and Josie recommends that she tell Darius and if he acts the fool that means she "has" him and there is no need to go to NY. However if he tries to play it cool Nina should go and teach "his ass a lesson." *PAUSE* (Yo I hate LOVE GAMES! I think we're too grown for that. It was cool in high school but not so much now. People just need to be direct and up front about shit yo. You start playing the love games and shit gets tricky. Use your budnippers people. Nip that shit in the bud, say what you mean, be open and direct and you will be just fine like Mary J.) Anyways....once Nina decides to follow Josie's advice shit goes haywire and it takes them a year to get it back together! But ...