Yesterday an article came out on msnbc.com entitled "Marriage Eludes High-Achieving Black Women". In this article two Yale researchers supposedly crunched some numbers, did some interviews, and came to the conclusion that the more educated and successful sisters became, the less likely they are to get married and have a family if they so choose.  Now maybe my c.o.n. spiracy spidey senses are off a bit but I saw so much innuendo and so many disturbing undertones in this article it literally fucked up my whole day. No for real....I was in a pissy mood for the remainder of the day! They said that single sisters were hesitant to have a child because they didnt wanna seem "ghetto", but when a single white women has a child she is deemed "liberal". Also that another reason for this trend is that there arent enough highly educated/accomplished brothers to go around. And the when the brothers are highly educated/accomplished they tend to "outmarry" AKA marry anybody else but a sister. I know propaganda when I read it dammit!!! Please heed the words of the great Chuck D yall....'Dont believe the hype'. "So THEY say we're running out of time/ We're running out of water/ We're running out of ...

Last week a friend of mine and I were discussing relationships (lol...been doing that alot lately it seems) and the topic of Soulmates came up. So maybe Im looking at it with a lil too much reality and the such....but the notion of a 'soulmate' is absolutely ridiculous when you really think about it. What is a soulmate? The one person in the world that you were born to be with and vice versa. WTF? Does that really make sense? Cant you just get along really well with someone? Is compatibility not enough? Must it be 'soulmates'?!!?!? Most people live in the same city for the majority of their life looking for their soulmate? If Im in Chicago...how ignorant would I have to be to assume my soulmate was also in Chicago. What if my soulmate is in Iceland or some shit. What if they were born 30 years before or after me?...b/c you know people always assume their soulmate is in the same age range. Dont get me wrong....Im probably the most fairytale ending wishing, head in the clouds, dreaming, sentimental dude you've ever came across in your life, but the notion of just one person meant for me to truly ...

"It's hard to be a spiritual being when shit is shaking what you believe in!" - Talib Kweli When the bills pile up faster than you can pay them, and your significant other aint acting right for whatever reason, and you cant have a good day at work for crying out loud, and life shows you it's shitty side......how do you pull through? Who or what do you believe in that helps you maintain? I've recently had a friend die unexpectedly, and the sibling of a friend succumb to cancer, topped off by falling behind on some bills becuz I tried to help people out, and at times it just seems I cant win for losing! It all just seems a bit too much for any one person to have to shoulder and bear. But you know what? I feel pretty good. And while Im not exactly sure that what doesnt kill you makes you stronger (becuz it's my belief that you may not die, but you can still be pretty fucked up for a long time), I do know that with time ANYTHING is possible. In time, you heal and learn to deal with people's passing. In time, you'll catch up on those bills ...

1. "Just give me a minute/ I betcha er'thang gon turn out lovely/ Just give me a minute/ Imma be alright.....just trust me!" - "Bubba Sparxxx "Lovely" 2. And I start this one off with that quote becuz dammit Im finna do some venting on this list. I think we're going to '50' on this like we usta do! 3. Stick around and read if you like. If not....I'll see ya when I see ya I guess 4. I hate to say it but....I got some straight up niggers in my family 5. And yes with the 'er' as opposed to the 'a' at the end. 6. You try to help niggers and they just shit all over you! 7. Damn shame these mugs is my blood....came out my daddy nut sac just like me and I gotta cut them off! 8. Learn the power of saying 'NO' my good people 9. It will save you TONS of grief down the line.....trust! 10. "Tell me now/Can you make it past your Caspers?/ So we can finally fly off into NASA/....We were never meant to be/Baby we just happened/ So PLEEEEASE dont mess up the trick/ Hey Young World...Im the new Slick Rick/ They say I move too quick/but we ...

The debate on whether men and women can be platonic friends seems to be eternal. At the risk of this possibly being the last blog I ever write becuz the lench mob has gotten a hold of me.... I am gonna step out on a limb and tell you the somewhat complete and honest truth about this matter. Ladies are you sure you're ready? REALLY REALLY sure? Okay here goes.... Can men and women be just friends? The answer is a resounding yes! But know that that 'yes' comes with one condition. What is this condition you may ask? The condition is this : Men and Women can be just friends, but women must keep in mind that given the right circumstances the man would almost ALWAYS let it go down. (Please take note that this is ALL my factual opinion, interpretation, and point of view on the situation. Also notice that I use words like'rarely', 'almost', 'pretty much', and 'probably'. Real non-committal type words, ya dig?) What are these circumstances you may ask? First, let me go back and preface this whole blog by saying that all that I've said thus far and all that I will say is with the presumption that ...

Okay so let's talk destiny my good people. You hear people say all the time that 'All things happen for a reason' and it's pretty damn easy to explain away things with that little saying but is it true? I'm not so sure. When someone is killed tragically.....especially a child...(hit by a car, stray bullet, falling ice even!) 'All things happen for a reason' does not do it for me. Im a firm believer in 'Life is what you make it'. I think we have more control over our lives and the things that transpire in it than we give ourselves credit for. So destiny? Ehhh.....Im not so convinced. It's all a balancing act really. The universe runs off of the concept of balance. You got joy and pain. Hot and cold. High and low. Rain and sunshine. I can go on but you get the point, right? We need both of those things. Just like we need both skill and luck. You gotta know when to push and when to pull. When to take the lead and when to let things fall into place. Balance I say!!!! Are you meant to be with the person you are with? Are you destined to be with ...

"I try to bring you 'life' but muthafuckas want 'dead'" - Jay Z "Young G's" That lyric lends it's self to a theory that I have. The theory is basically about how people tend to respond to bad more so than good. Like they are more fascinated with bad than good or something. Ever found yourself the willing recipient of some juicy gossip? Hearing "I heard Willie's wife came home early and found him in bed with her sister!" is alot more entertaining than hearing "I hear Willie surprised his wife with a trip to St. Croix!". Now ask yourself, if you were the gossip passer on-er type....which of the two would you be most anxious to share with someone else? Ever heard the phrase "If it bleeds it leads"? Yes? No? Maybe so? Well in the event you havent, that phrase is an age old adage of broadcast news. Every notice when you watch your nightly news that the first story is ALWAYS of a double homicide? The heart warming story about the 96 yr old lady who still gets up every day and walks a mile and a half to volunteer at the local soup kitchen usually gets buried somewhere between ...

"One life to live/Notice you get no sequel/So I truly got to live this like my last movie!" - Jay Z Why put up with uncomfort and unhappiness if you dont have to? I know sometimes in life we have to deal with things and do things we'd rather not do, but for the most part we are in charge of our own reality. It's one of the beauties of this life. So if you dont like what's going on in your world, then change your reality! They say life is short, but sometimes life is loooooooooooooooooooooong than a mu'fucka. Especially when you are putting up with some bullshit. Stress is really real and it can manifest it's self into REAL, KILL YOUR ASS health issues if you dont do something about it. So if your drawers creep up in your ass......get them shits out! If you hate your job to the point that you loathe even walking up in that bitch....quit as soon as you can! If your significant other aint pulling their weight and making you happy......get up outta there yo! Live your life yall. Live it to the best of your ability. "....and if there aint no beauty you've got to MAKE some beauty!" ...

I'm not quite sure as to whether that was the revolution that wasn't supposed to be televised on my TV the other night But if it was indeed the revolution then that don't make liars of The Last Poets Just means they were a bit off I guess More than likely it was the start of the revolution The opening credits if you will Not the closing ones There is still work to be done So now that the partying is over and the reality of it all has begun to sink in..... Are you ready to work and keep it going? Has this great inspiration and leader of a man named Barack lit a fire under your ass or what? Because this cant be the end all be all This simply can not be the apex It's called progress and it doesn't stop For all those that came before us and sacrificed with their loves and lives this milestone is for them but it doesn't end here There is still many a heart filled with hatred out there but we must not let them get in the way of our progress for they know no better and are only acting out the last of the hate that hate produced It's a new day yall One dream has been realized and so another begins My TiTi ...