Tainted Love
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By teej
She said “I don’t know… This guy seems too nice. I’m suspicious.”
And I go “Well damn cant the brother just be genuinely nice?”
Then she replies “Never came across that before. He gives compliments, he wants to see me. WTF?”
Aint that something? The fact that he DOES give compliments and makes it known to her that he wants to see her makes her pump her brakes and put her guards up?!?!? That leads me to wonder what kinda behavior had she experienced before and began to take for “the norm” if those 2 genuine gestures throw her off course.
In “Cant Get Enough Of Your Love Babe” Barry White has a line that goes “What kinda love is this that you’re giving me?”. I’ve always loved that line. You know you getting some real shit when you gotta step back and examine it like “Hold up! This is some new shit! I aint never been loved like this before! What kinda love did you say this was again?” lol
I cant speak for anyone else but I dont know how NOT to wear my heart on my sleeve. If I’m digging on you, you’ll know it. And most likely everyone around me will know it too.
“Im too old to be fronting what Im feeling/Denzel’n acting like you aint appealing when you are” - Jay Z
So Matou if you’re reading….just know that we arent all the same. Some of us are indeed built differently. Some of us are actually pretty damn good at expressing ourselves. Some of us know how to genuinely compliment a woman. Some of us know how to be attentive. Some of us do in fact mean what we say.
It may seem that we’re far and few in between but we’re around love. 
Inspiration : Matou’s tweets and Slum Village’s “Tainted Love” (RIP Baatin & Dilla)
August 7th, 2009 at 8:27 am
I would like one of the guys who wears his heart on his sleeve over a non-emoting brick wall any day!
Please send one that is tall, smart, funny, cute, clean fingernails and weekly haircut. you already have my mailing addy. Thx!
August 7th, 2009 at 10:17 am
Yeah, I was one of those people who thought that good was a reason to be suspicious…went through the tainted love stages, when a woman knows her worth she’s not surprised by good loving….
August 7th, 2009 at 10:42 am
Awwwwwww….
August 7th, 2009 at 11:54 pm
Never understood nor will I ever understand why or how nice/giving = suspicious. What the hell is too nice anyway? If I hear one more female say this I swear I am going pop a blood vessel(smirk). Sometimes things are just as they are, with absolutely no need to define or understand it. People need to just ENJOY it (define it in whatever manner that fits you) and put the microscopes away.
August 8th, 2009 at 12:12 am
I am guilty of that as well. It is rare to find that nice, good guy and not be taken aback…..
August 8th, 2009 at 12:47 am
Wow..this one hit home TeeJ!! I’m sooo guilty of it. Also, very well said Cheron. Thanks for sharing
August 10th, 2009 at 11:07 pm
*raises hand* I’m so guilty of this and I thank God that I made it a point in my life to welcome true love in and not compromise what I wanted in a man because of that other man’s past mistakes… I think after having so many nuts in our dating phase we get conditioned into thinking this is how we should be treated. Some of us start to lower our standards thinking maybe we have unattainable goals… Well F&#% that!!! I now know that’s not the case and yes it is hard to get everything you ask for and not think somethings up but if we don’t open our hearts and take what the universe is giving us, we will never get that love that we can’t get enough of…
August 13th, 2009 at 2:06 pm
ok….
i’m guilty of this to a degree….i think it, but i dont necessarily act on it. I dont start treating him fucked up because i think he’s too nice, i dont start pulling away from him or questioning his “niceness” to a point that cancels us out. At most, i question it to myself, but appreciate it at the same time. I relish in it, even if i am wondering what i’ve done to deserve it. I understand that i have picked a lot of garbage and the fact that i may come across someone who is treating me the way i have always wanted to be treated scares me, but it doesnt make me treat him wrong….what pisses me off though…is when they come around acting that way, and the suddenly, they turn the cold faucet on. …suddenly they are no longer mr nice guy, the mask has fallen and they have lost interest, but they aren’t MAN enough to say it.!!!!…THATS what pisses me off…and im done because i will type forever.
August 13th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
nice guys play games too!!!!