For as long as I can remember I’ve always said that me and marriage would be a one shot deal. Im only getting married once. And we will make it work dammit! Point blank, period. Aint gon be no damn divorcing. Still feel that way actually.

But in all honesty I suppose my overly fantasizing ass cant really make that call until Im knee deep in it. Real life often gets in the way of what we intend to do. No one marries with the intention of eventually divorcing the person you just swore to love, honor and cherish for the rest of your days. You said ‘for richer or poorer, in sickness and health’ and you were supposed to mean that shit! It seems that everyone wants it but everyone isnt willing to work for it and stick it out. The divorce rate is only getting higher. Everyone wants the marriage their grandparents had back in the day. Everyone wants to celebrate their 50th anniversary like Anna and Russell (That was a Cosby Show reference for those of you not following), or to use a real life couple, like Ruby and Ossie, but hell even THEY had an open marriage!!!!!

The bottom line is marriage is hard. No one ever said it was gon be easy. Even me and these dreaming eyes of mine know that. I know its gon be times when Im gon wake up and be tired of looking at this muthafucka! lol. I gotta imagine being married 20 some odd years or so you might be tempted to get tired of someone. Thats why you gotta be proactive about finding new ways to keep the spark there. Nowadays people divorce for petty shit. They treat it like it’s grade school and they can “go with” and “quit” people all willy nilly.

So I say all that to ask if marriage is really sacred anymore? Do people really realize what they are vowing when they take their vows? At what point do you throw in the towel?

There are a few scenarios that I can think of that would cause me to have them papers drawn up. I MIGHT (and that’s a pretty big fuckin’ ‘MIGHT’) forgive an indiscretion once, but that’s it. You cant keep your legs closed you gon hafta roll! If I found out that you usta be someone else and changed your identity before we met then that means I didnt marry who I thought I married……yeah *two fingers* chica. Intentionally harm some kids IN ANY WAY? Heffa, there’s the door! I could go on but you get the point.

So what would be your deal breakers and/or reasons to divorce?

Inspiration : A conversation about marriage that I recently had.